Apr. 24th, 2010 12:08 pm
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from Elf, in her post here:

"I can't honestly say to the nonPagan public, we are safe; we are not harmful to our members. Because we put our members through hells, dredge their psyches for pain and force them to swallow it and then tell them to ask for more. We dance with demons. Almost always, metaphorical ones. People who get into this stuff the wrong way, or without being balanced just right, or at a rough time in their lives--lose their partnerships of years, lose their jobs, lose their sanity, lose their connection with humanity. They go to jail or turn up homeless. Sometimes, they commit suicide.

While I'd love for us to have a statement we can agree on, decrying sexual abuse, decrying the abuse of minors, phrased in a way to be a useful resource to the media or to members of our community... a lot of the people involved in the discussion don't seem to want that. Or they don't seem to want *just* that. They want a statement that says "we are GOOD and you can TRUST US!"

And you can't. We hurt people. The ones we love and respect most, we demand the most of; they give up *everything* for their spiritual paths. Done right, religious witchcraft *shatters* the lives of its practitioners--and the really talented ones put together a beautiful mosaic out of the pieces. The rest... don't.

I want to look at all those nice curious teens who heard about Wicca on a blog somewhere, and tell them, "go away; there be dragons here." I don't want that message diluted with statements about our ethics, even accurate ones. I really don't want it diluted with feelgood platitudes that imply that all of Pagandom is gentle and supportive and people who get involved with it should never be disturbed at what's going on around them.

Thou Shalt Not Eat Poisoned Bait. If You Do, Don't Come Whining To Me About It."


Oct. 19th, 2009 02:19 pm
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Still banging head on desk repeatedly while trying to get a computer *reliably* working for consistent net access and various other projects... but for now...

On the Butch/Femme dance, but fitting other queerdoms as well:

It is quite a spectacle, really, once one sees it, these humans so devoted to dressing up and acting out... the theory that there are two sharply distinct sexes and never the twain shall overlap or be confused or conflated... marking a distinction between two sexes as though their lives depended on it. It is amazing that homosexuals and lesbians are mocked and judged for dressing in "butch-femme drag", for nobody goes about in full public view as though decked out in butch and femme drag as much as respectable heteronormatives when they are dressed up to go out in the evening, or to go to church, or to go to the office. Critics of queers' styles ought to look at themselves in the mirror on their way out for a night on the town to see who's really in drag. The answer is, everybody is. Perhaps the main difference between heteronormatives and queers is that when queers go forth, as butch, femme or anything in between, they know they are engaged in a gender theater. Heteronormatives usually are taking it all perfectly seriously, thinking they are in the real world, thinking they *are* the real world. (Marilyn Frye)


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